Today's question is about apathy. Are depression and apathy the same? Recently, we've noticed a dramatic increase of clients presenting for counselling with what I would describe as apathy or resignation. Naturally, this is in part a by-product of what we've all been experiencing with the global pandemic. There's a lot that has been completely […]

Today’s question is about the importance of attachment styles in a relationship. Today's question is about attachment styles, and why they are important in relationships. We develop attachment styles early in childhood. There are four primarily attachment styles that determine our style of connecting with others, depending upon our experience and personality. Age zero to […]

What are the qualities of a good counsellor? Well, there are different perspectives that I can answer that question from. One of the core qualities of a great counsellor is the same as a good confidant. A confidant has three qualities: they are a vault, non-judgemental, and empathic. A counsellor must have these basic skills, […]

What is inter-dependency? Elaine shares the definition of inter-dependency and the main differences with co-dependency.

As part of our 'Your Questions Answered" series , our counsellors take a question and present the answer in video format. In this video, Elaine McCaw, Registered Clinical Counsellor & Certified Family Mediator explains the difference between Stonewalling Versus Defensiveness. If you are wondering how counseling can help you, refer to our article on 4 […]

Couples therapy can be a highly effective way to work through relationship difficulties and get your relationship back on track. However, it is important that you know what to expect when you go into couples counseling.

How many times have you said or done something you later wished to take back?  Reaction to the perception of threat can push us into troublesome actions. Our bodies are biologically hardwired to avoid or defend. What appears to be a threat creates a body response. Before we know if the threat is actual or […]

Counselling for self-esteem begins with the examination of what is self-esteem. Self-esteem refers to how we think about ourselves. In a sense, it is the collective of beliefs that run through our mind about ourselves, our worth, and our abilities. When people discuss high self-esteem, they’re likely referring to self-confidence and self-worthiness to pursue the […]

EMDR treatment  works by transforming your nervous system response to traumatic or triggering experiences of the past. A trained therapist can direct you through the process of contemplating these experiences in brief doses while directing your eye movements. Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) therapy is a psychotherapy technique that is used to alleviate psychological […]

Relationship abuse is rooted in control and power over another. Abusive relationships can show themselves in a few different ways. It’s important that if you suspect your spouse/partner exhibits harmful behaviors such as substance abuse or gaslighting (or any type), please don’t stay silent! If you're a victim, please reach out for support. If your spouse/partner […]