Q&A - What is Inter-Dependency?

Published: September 15, 2021,  
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Today's question is what is inter-dependency? And is it healthy in a relationship?

Interdependency is considered healthy. Both partners have a solid sense of self.

They know how to self-regulate strong emotions. Possessing self-awareness, each partner is satisfied with the track of their own lives, independent of the relationship.

Bonding with another person that also has a solid sense of themselves, still requires the development of dependency over time. Intimate relationships by their nature, require a vulnerability to depend on another in order to form a deeper bond of intimacy. 

Over time, naturally this vulnerability or dependency requires that we continue to cultivate balance. Most of us struggle with maintaining that balance at some point in a long term relationship. Especially when major life choices such as parenting together or conjoining finances creates a sense of dependency, it can feel overwhelming. Discussion of this issue within a long term relationship is advised to remain supportive of each other to maintain this healthy sense of individuality.

Interdependency is very different from codependency. Codependency is an attempt to complete some aspect of oneself by joining with another person. The futility of attempting to get what one needs in order to feel complete within ourselves, typically leads to perpetual power struggles in the relationship. Learning how to ind

Interdependency is considered healthy. Both partners have a solid sense of self.

They know how to self-regulate strong emotions. Possessing self-awareness, each partner is satisfied with the track of their own lives, independent of the relationship.

Bonding with another person that also has a solid sense of themselves, still requires the deividuate and develop resiliency individually, can be supported with a skilled couples therapist. Once addressed as codependency with your counselor, often the many power struggles in the relationship resolve.

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